If you’re reading this, chances are you’ve just said yes, and now you’re wondering what to do after getting engaged.
First of all, congratulations!
So you’ve got something shiny on your finger and a whole lot of butterflies in your tummy. Whether the proposal happened during a sunset walk, on the couch in tracksuit pants, or in front of a crowd, one thing’s for sure: you’re engaged. And it’s a moment you’ll never forget.
As someone who’s walked this road personally and helped countless brides professionally, I wanted to share some real, heartfelt advice on what to do right after you say “yes”.
1. Take a Breather & Soak It All In
Before you rush into planning mode, just pause. Let it sink in. Take a selfie. Write down how it happened while the memory is still fresh. It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of telling everyone, but this moment belongs to just the two of you first.
2. Celebrate With Your People
Call your folks. Message your bestie. Announce it however you want to. Don’t feel pressured to post on social media straight away. This is your love story, share it on your timeline. And if you’re in the mood for an impromptu glass of bubbles or a relaxed dinner with close mates, go for it. These little celebrations are just as memorable as the big day.
3. Get Your Ring Insured
It’s not glamorous, but it’s a must. As someone who’s heard more than a few ring horror stories (lost at the gym, down the sink, you name it), I always recommend getting insurance as soon as possible. Most home or contents insurance policies in SA can add it as a specified item. It’s peace of mind you’ll never regret.
4. Chat About the Vision
Once you’ve celebrated, have a chat, not a plan, just a dream. What kind of wedding do you both imagine? Intimate or big bash? Bushveld, cityscape or seaside? It’s not about choosing colours just yet, it’s about understanding the vibe you’re going for. These chats set the foundation.
5. Pick a Rough Date (or Season)
You don’t have to pin down a date immediately, but having a rough idea helps with everything else, especially venues and vendors. Think about which season feels right, any special dates you love, and how much time you’ll need to plan comfortably.
6. Work Out a (Very Rough) Budget
It’s not the fun part, but it’s important. Sit down with your partner (and potentially the families) to figure out what’s realistic. It doesn’t have to be exact, but a ballpark figure will guide your decisions and keep expectations in check as you go.
7. Start Finding Your Dream Team
This is the part I love most professionally: building your vendor team! Your suppliers help bring your day to life. Start following local photographers, florists, planners and more on Instagram. Save what inspires you, read reviews, and ask around for recommendations. If you’re not sure where to begin, that’s exactly what The Bridal Plan is here for: to connect you with vendors who get your vision.
8. Don’t Compare Your Journey to Anyone Else’s
Some couples plan their weddings in six months. Others take two years. There’s no “right” pace. Go with what works for you. Planning your wedding should feel exciting, not rushed or overwhelming.
Being engaged is such a sweet, fleeting chapter. It’s filled with joy, jitters and a hundred decisions, but also with so much love. From one bride to another (and someone who’s helped many walk this path), here’s a reminder: this day you’re planning is all about celebrating your love. That’s the most important part, always.
And if you’re needing a bit of direction, some vendor recommendations, or just someone to help you feel a bit more organised, I’ve got your back. That’s what The Bridal Plan is here for.
You’re engaged. Let’s make magic happen.
